Couples Toys: Where to Start?

There's a conversation many couples never have — not because they don't want to, but because they don't know how to start. And toys are often at the heart of that pending conversation.

The reality is simpler than it seems: introducing a toy into a relationship is not a sign that something is missing. It's a sign of curiosity. Of wanting to explore together. Of taking pleasure seriously.

Before choosing, talk.

It doesn't have to be a long or serious conversation. It can be as casual as  "what would you be curious to try?" The conversation itself is already part of the experience — and usually reveals more than you expected: for both of you!

Where to start

If it's your first time, the easiest thing is something that adds without replacing. A vibrating ring is the classic entry point for a reason: it stimulates both of you at the same time, without anyone having to do anything differently. The Loop Vibrating Ring from MYLBDO is exactly that — discreet, powerful, and with a design that doesn't feel out of this world.

For couples who want something a little more intentional, a massage candle completely changes the mood before anything else. The Dame Massage Candle is a perfect entry: it transforms something as simple as a massage into something completely different.

If you've already explored a bit

A couple's vibrator like the POM by Dame — designed to be used during sex — is the natural next level. Or some power play if curiosity leans that way: some cuffs, a wonderful LEATHER FLOGGER, of course, always leather... The point is not to go to extremes but to move a step beyond the familiar.

The only rule that matters

That both of you want to. It doesn't mean both have to be equally excited at first, but neither should feel like they are giving in. Shared pleasure works when both are present, not when one convinces the other.

Everything else is exploration. And that, by definition, has no single right way of being done.

Enjoy,

xx